Saturday, January 9, 2010

Onward and Upward

Life is all about learning and growing.  That usually means pushing beyond what is known and comfortable.  I've learned the most when there was great conflict involved.  And the greatest joys have been when conflicts were overcome.  
I am solution oriented and find it very frustrating when I'm confronted with people who are battle oriented.  The battle seems more important to them than any ideal to work toward.  They thrive on the fight.  
I've not been good about seeing these people coming before becoming embroiled in conflict.  I've been thinking a lot about the signs and about the things in me that leads me down these paths.
Battle people hold onto a lot of hurt - every insult, every wrong, all the ways other people have not measured up.  That's a huge sign.  
The message for me is that I don't want to be a battle person.  I need to be less focused on hurt and more focused on positive things.  It's no fun living life angry.  Focusing on the anger just makes every insult - every wrong - loom larger than it probably really needs to be.
There are many conflicts in life - many things to do to make our world a lot better.  I want to be about solutions - Onward and Upward!